March for Babies

Tuesday, November 14, 2006


I had a visit with the OB/GYN yesterday. T and I spent last evening discussing the pros and cons of attempting another pregnancy. I believe we decided we would like to have a consultation with the maternal fetal specialists at the local bigwig hospital and see what they have to say. We learned there was an infection in the placenta when Azure was born (why did I not know about this before?) and upon examination, my cervix felt short. I have an appointment with the dildocam on Sunday morning to have it measured. I didn't know one could measure the non-pregnant cervix and declare it either competent or not, but I guess that is the purpose of this fun little exercise so we shall see what the radiologist has to say in the matter. I don't know whether the knowledge of the infection will help us since my doctor said there was no way to tell if the infection started the labor or the other way round. Once upon a time there was a chicken and also an egg.
We want another baby. We would prefer sooner rather than later. We do not want another preemie. Another premature birth would effect not only ourselves, which is bad enough, but also Azure, our poor Maggie-dog who has been so starved for attention, the people we would have to rely on to watch Azure if I were placed on bedrest, hospitalized or if the baby did require a stay in the NICU. We cannot just think of ourselves, there are far too many others to take into consideration. We did not ask for a premature birth the first time round. If we chance another pregnancy we would be deliberately gambling on just such an outcome. Keep your fingers crossed all you want that it lasts longer next time around, but those crossed fingers will only get you so far.
All of this is on my mind today, Prematurity Awareness Day.


Kape said...

I work in dental journalism and I just thought you should know that researchers have found a direct link between the bacteria in the mouth (streptococcus mutans) present with periodontal disease and low birth weight, premature births. Physicians may not be aware of this discover yet as it's quite new. You can visit the American Academy of Periodontology's website ( for more information. All women considering pregnancy should visit her dental professional to ensure her oral health is satisfactory. It certainly doesn't hurt to explore all avenues. I wish you the best of luck!

Sol said...

Best of luck with the new u/s and the consult. I sincerely hope they found nothing wrong and your choice is made very easy to move forward, if that's what you guys want.

Julie said...

I hope it all works out the way you want and you get to have an enjoyable pregnancy. Speaking from someone who is currently working full-time, with a 22 month old at home, a 6 year yellow lab starved for attention, and a newborn in the NICU for now 6 weeks at a hospital that is 1.5 hours away from home and managing to pump every three hours...I'm exhausted from keeping a ridiculous schedule but I am so happy to have #2. It's been hard, but she'll be fine, I will be fine,daughter #1 will be fine and hopefully in the next 2-4 weeks we will have our family home(and I get to take my maternity leave finally). Is it selfish of me to feel that it was all worth it? Maybe, but it definitely is worth it to me. I didn't have #1 early and there was no reason to think #2 would come early - therefore we weren't prepared. Maybe being prepared will make a difference for you - I've got to believe it will. Just arm yourself with info and make the decision that is right for you. Good luck - feel free to email me if you have any questions.

Anne said...

Hi! I think, reading your story, it sounded a bit like PROM (premature rupture of membranes). I had this with my Aiden at 33 weeks, and my Kyra at 18 weeks. There is a website that is a wealth of information for ttc after PROM. there is also an email list for support. It helped me so much! You may want to check it out.

ThreeBees said...

Hoping for the best with the consult. Thinking of you and wishing you all you want - including the perfect pregnancy for #2. :)